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"Men and women speak different languages." This is a statement that I agree with entirely. Both sexes interpret conversations and situations in different ways. This is when misunderstandings occur, especially in relationships. From personal experience, I can say that many differences occur when comparing men and women's communication between each other and between their own genders.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dp4u3zHabJg&feature=related This clip from Everybody Loves Raymond portrays how genders communicate with one another. Even though Debra does not have a close relationship with the teacher, she begins revealing private information and venting her feelingd to her. I believe she took this action because women understand each others feelings. Women share personal information with each other, and it makes them feel better. Personally, I know that their are things that I would rather talk to my girl friends about than my boyfriend, such as things that are bothering us that may seem stupid to a guy. For example, one of my friends has started to become way too clingy for my liking. Her constant phone calls, texs, and IM's are getting on my nerves so much that I never answer her and I try to avoid her at all costs. I told my boyfriend about this, and he thinks that I am being mean; he doesn't understand where I am coming from, and I can't understand why he doesn't unerstand my view of the situation. However, when I talk to my girl friends about it, they completely understand my annoyance with her and give me advice about what I should say if I confront her about the whole situation. My girl friends are much more helpful to me in this situation. Of course I love my boyfriend to death, but talking to him about this situation just gets me annoyed at him, so I tend to steer clear of bringing it up around him. The Everybody Loves Raymond clip also shows how men and women communicate with each other in a relationship. As Ray is sitting there silently, Debra asks him why he can't talk about anything and why he is so close-minded. Debra begins to vent her emotions when Ray does not give her a straight answer. By asking Ray this question, Debra wants to know why he can't express his emotions clearly; why he can't put himself out there. Many women ponder this same question. When it comes down to expressing personal feelings, guys want no part in it. My boyfriend will be the first person to admit that, when it comes to romance, he is not good at expressing his emotions; whereas I am a hopeless romantic. When my boyfriend brings me flowers I melt, and it means that much more because he's usually not too romantic. However, a lot of times I really want him to be express his feelings, even though I know he probably won't. Then I get all moody, and he doesn't understand why. Of course I do the typical girl thing, where you assume that he should know why, and you get even more mad when he doesn't figure it out on his own. I believe that this is definitely one of the biggest and most common misunderstandings in relationship communication between men and women.